Seeing one of these Red Flags does not mean that you are in the presence of a sexual abuser - but if your instinct is feeling something is off - listen, observe, and minimize this person's access to children - especially in a 1:1 situation, which is the case for an estimated 80% of all child sexual abuse.
This page outlines general indicators of a child who has been sexually abused, a teen who has been sexually abused, another adult has been sexually abused, and someone who may sexually abuse a child. The occurrence of one indicator does not necessarily mean a person has experienced sexual abuse. Additionally, indicators of sexual abuse can vary widely from person to person.
Your reaction to the disclosure will have a big effect on how your child deals with the trauma of sexual abuse. Children whose parents/caregivers are supportive heal more quickly from the abuse.
When a child discloses sexual abuse, here are some important things that the child will need you to do.
This video discusses three common childhood sexual behaviors and how parents can respond. The behaviors are playing doctor, masturbating in public, and using sexually explicit language. In each case, the children may be asking indirectly for more information about sexuality. Parents are the primary sex educators of their children.